I`m running on empty but full of energy.
I have not eaten since April 24th - no food but I`ve been on the move all week - visiting London and Southend on a daily basis.
All I`ve had is liquid, liquid and more liquid.
The first 2 days I had Red Bull, Orange Lucozade, tea and McDonald`s Strawberry Milkshakes to line my stomach and fight off the hunger pains - then I `dropped` the shakes and added Ribena and Orange juice but from today no more luxury liquids.
It will just be sweet tea and black coffee. And it should be easy as all weekend I aint got to cook Bacon Sarnies or various pastas.
My youngest is on a Football Tour of Eire and the big boy is staying at a girlfriends house so `fasting` should be a `walk in the park`.
And apart from the `terrible pains` in my kidneys I feel fine - to be honest it has even reduced the pain in my liver.
But it has `highlighted` my emotions.
Yesterday I saw Adam off at the airport and when he hugged me in front of everyone outside the Department Lounge - I almost went to pieces as I said "Love you have a great time" and when he replied "I will, love you Dad"
I could feel a lump in my throat.
And hours later I got a bit `upset` saying "goodbye" to Sam and he was only going to a party in Basildon LOL.
But we still gave each other a hug with Sam saying "Top man".
Both incidents brought home to me the serious implications of my `Hunger Strike` if it goes to the wire - which it will do - coz I wont give up - will I get a chance to say a final "goodbye" to Sam and Adam?
I know from the previous chapter that they will support my action because as I said I dont want them to see me `sick` or for me to become a burden on them.
They will appreciate me `going out in a blaise of publicity` with a media reported inquest and hopefully a Public Inquiry.
My `Hunger Strike` will mean that the General Public and my sons will have to know the truth as to why I was illegally & cruelly stopped from seeing my daughter.
The British public, the media and Sam and Adam will want to know why a "innocent man" was hounded to death by his ex-wife, a judge and Social Services.
I can sort of `happily" go to my grave as long my children NEVER forgive and NEVER forget that I was MURDERED by JULIE TAYLOR JOHNSON...the former porn star...and girlfriend of perverted pimp richard grimson.
As the MP told my sons "They all want your dad dead".
Solicitor Alan Foskett has already gone-on-record telling The Times newspaper:
"This case is the worst I have come across in 30 years and for the first time in my life I am ashamed to be part of the Legal system"
Adding;
"Mr Johnson was shafted"
And his view of the same judge hearing the Care Proceedings and my Divorce:
"I certainly think it was poor practise in terms of applying the old adage `justice should not only be done but seem to be done` and unwise"
"Hear Hear" to that.
And when I reported this matter to the OJC they dismissed my complaint - not because I had no reasons to complain - but because I had no documents to prove my claim that the same judge had heard both the Care Proceedings and my Divorce.
They were of the opinion that cases are handed out to who-ever is available and that its basically the "luck of the draw" - but I was right and they were wrong - as I have now obtained a legal document that proves 100% that it was not a case of `who was free on the day`.
I have a timed and dated document (15th April 2008) which reveals that the solicitors acting for my ex-wife personally asked for the same judge to hear my Divorce.
And they made the request ex-parte.
A copy of the document was this week sent to the OJC and my MP.
As has a copy of a legal medical document I obtained under the Freedom Of Information Act from January 2006 which states "Mr Johnson has no mental health problems and is not mentally ill".
It is signed by a Essex Social Services Manager.
I want an inquiry into why this document was kept from me until May 2010.
And also an investigation into why a civil case I brought (on both police and legal advice) against my ex-wife for making "false allegations" and harrassment has been transferred from my local court to Chelmsford.
I started proceedings at Basildon in December 2010 and still dont have a date for the Hearing.
This information has also been forwarded to the OJC and my MP.
Saturday 30 April 2011
Tuesday 19 April 2011
Martydom
This really will be the Final Chapter when the updated version of my autobiography `The Punk Poet` is published.
Private Draft Version:
Martydom. I can almost taste it. Last Thursday I went to court and was once again the `innocent victim` of `corruption`.
As always I was `persecuted` by a pincer movement involving my ex-wife, Social Services and the judge.
They once again lied and lied, conspired to stop me seeing my daughter. I was wrongly accused of contempt as all reporting restrictions related to my case were lifted by Lord Justice Munby at The High Court.
And as part of their campaign to stop me seeing my daughter they falsely accused me of writing a feature in The Sun which if they`d bothered to look carried the bye-line of campaigning journalist Jane Moore.
One of the many people featured in the 2-page article was called "Harry" which unbeknown to me is apparently my alias!
There was of course no hard evidence to prove I was `Harry` just the slanderous smear of jtj who provided the court with a edited clipping of the article.
It was a `kangaroo court` and like something out of `Nazi Germany` or pre-Mandella South Africa.
They want me `silenced` because I dared to expose how they all conspired to cover-up the fact that my children were violently threatened and verbally sexually abused by richard grimson.
The perverted pimp and boyfriend of my ex-wife.
They also ignored the fact that every word I have ever written or spoken aint just been the `gospel truth`.
It was also verbally repeated on oath and every word appeared in my written statement to The High Court in 2009.
I would of revealed this earlier but Friday was taken up with medical stuff, Saturday and Sunday football and yesterday organising a trip to Ireland. (all paid for by Social Services LOL).
My medical condition allows me to be a martyr. I have a illness so why wait for `nature to take its course` why not go out with a `bang` in a blaze of publicity?
From a very young age I always wanted to be famous. First a footballer, a gangster, and then a punk rock singer.
Now I can be the first `reality TV star` to die on `hunger strike`.
A week before my next court appearance I will start a `Hunger Strike` as every death in police custody/prison is always reported by the media.
They will want to know how and why I died.
There also has to be a inquest, so my death, my story, my miscarraige of justice will not be `swept under the carpet`.
This is no empty threat - because if I dont go through with it - I will lose `face` and my credibility.
My decision is now on-the-record.
In death I obviously wont be breathing but it will give me the oxygen of publicity. It might even lead to a full Public Inquiry.
The British people will want to know why a `devoted dad` has been stopped from seeing his daughter since November 2007.
A question PRINCESS will also ask when she is older.
She like the great British public will want to know why a Father who commited no crime and was accused of no crime was denied access to his daughter.
Why was a dad `persucuted and punished` for daring to speak out when his children were `violently threatened` and `verbally sexually abused` by a former pimp with a 15-year history of bullying women and children?
And why was borderline paedophile richard grimson protected by the mother and his lover julie taylor johnson?
There are many more questions for a inquest to ask.
Why were social services and my ex-wife allowed to claim I was `mad` or "mentally ill"?
And why were they allowed to get away with it?
A inquest will demand answers
The fact is the courts cant punish a dead person. They cant put a corpse in the dock.
I dont want to die - who does?
So let me explain my position.
My children know I am not well and see my physical pain on a daily basis. I have a iffy heart, dodgy liver and stomach ulcers.
They know my medical condition is the fault of their former mother, social services and the judge.
My sons know I went to prison for daring to name richard grimson, the perverted pimp and boyfriend of their ex-mum.
I told the world that this piece of `vermin` violently threatened and verbally sexually abused my children with the knowledge of social services and my ex-wife.
And for that I lost my freedom and my health.
But the fact is I know my sons will support my desicion to take my fight to the grave.
As the MP told my sons "They want your dad dead" adding "with him dead they dont have a problem".
Well he was right about them wanting me dead - but wrong about that being the end of their problem.
I will still be seeking the truth from beyond the grave. I have left legal letters, timed and dated documents that my sons will give to the media.
And before anyone accuses me of being `mentally ill` for planning a hunger strike - let me just say Ghandi, The Suffragettes and Bobby Sands.
All were hunger strikers, some lived some died - but they all fought for and in one way or another got justice.
I aint a hero - but I`m not well as three stays in Basildon Hospital with `heart problems` prove and next weeks scan will confirm.
The honest fact is I dont want to be a invalid and have to rely on my kids to look after me. I dont want to be a burden to anyone. I want to be a dead hero rather then a live coward.
I love my children to bits - but I know they feel I let them down because I didnt `do` grimson in 2005.
They have said to me "Dad you should of done him" and in a way they were right - I did let them down.
I explained the teenage me would of - as would the 25-year-old Garry Johnson. But I explained that is what your mother and her family wanted me to do - with me banged up for life they would of taken you from me.
They would of poisoned you against me and brainwashed you.
And I told them how a genuine Cockney hardman said to me "Gal, do you really want to spend 20 years locked up for a few minutes of pleasure?"
So I feel that by going on Hunger Strike I will be a true hero to my children. I want my headstone to say "Garry Johnson gave his life for his children".
What better tribute could a dad have?
I have contacted the media and a film company telling them of my decision so that everything is on-the-record.
I wanted to play for West Ham or appear on Top Of The Pops, that didnt happen, but this way I`ll get on SKY News and my name will live on forever.
I will from beyond the grave expose the corrupt Family Courts, Social Services and Cafcass and reveal how they all conspired with the help of my ex-wife to protect borderline pardophile richard grimson.
A former pimp who boasted of sex sessions with my 5-year-old daughter and ex-wife. A sick scumbag who carried out a campaign of terror against my children.
I am sure a inquest/public inquiry will want to know why the Family Court and Social Services protected such a beast.
And the timed and dated documents and legal letters my sons will hand to the media will confirm I was telling the truth and that there was a cover-up.
The police can confirm they cautioned grimson and spoke to him 3 times about his sick behaviour, the documents confirm my ex-wife covered-up for him.
And his sick behaviour is on-the-record in various `secret` Social Services and Cafcass documents.
So why was nothing done to protect my children?
I discovered from a relative of the pervert (Emma M from Ipswich) that he had a 15-year history of abusing and terrorising women and children).
That fact and everything else will come out at the Inquest. One way or another it will be in the public domain that richard grimson formerly of 40 Hyde Way Wickford and now of Wisbech did violently threaten and verbally sexually abuse my children.
And that jtj `covered-up` for him and refused to report his vile behaviour to the police.
My eldest is 19 tomorrow and youngest will be 17 in November so both will be old enough for legal Lie Detector Tests.
I am so confident that I will stick 100% to my hunger strike that in recent days I have done and spoken to my sons about `soppy sentimental` things.
Today (Thursday April 21st) it was a boiling hot day so I went to Southend and stood on the very spot where my first born walked for the first time on his own.
It was `very emotional` as was having a drink in the seafront pub where in 1989 I realised I was falling in love with my ex-wife.
And from memory she bought me a Rod Stewart Greatest Hits Video.
Next week after my scan in Billericay I plan to visit Lake Meadows where my youngest son walked for the first time - it was on the grass next to the swimming pool.
And then Pitsea Zoo where my daughter walked on her own for the first time.
I`ve also been talking to my oldest son about marriage - his not mine LOL.
I said "I cant wait for you to settle down and have kids"
Him: "Why?"
adding "What sort of dad do you think I`d make?"
I reply "brilliant" adding "Because of all you`ve been through you`ll be a great dad"
I dont say much more in case I let slip that I worry about not being around to see my grandkids - but I do give him `marraige advice` but `me being me` it aint boring or traditional.
I say "dont marry a beautiful girl, I made that mistake and look what happened? "
I tell him `beautiful women are most likely to cheat on you" . My son "What like her and grimson?"
Me:
"Exactly"
Adding "And dont forget flemming and tibbs junior"
The fact is it was others and not me who either caught her `cheating` or tipped off the boys about her adultery.
My youngest caught her kissing flemming and `half-naked` with grimson. The father of Ross Tussaud revealed to him "your mum has been seeing my brother-in-law" (peter tibbs jnr)
And it was Princess who told Sam
"I`m going to a wedding with mum and vinnie" (Hyms)
But still she tells the court and Social Services that I turned the boys against her when the truth is I only personally told the boys one thing - that being:
"You know Aiden the taxi driver he said he saw her with grimson loads of times and that the fat pervert was all over her"
Aiden is not my mate or anything so had no reason to lie, in fact his son played football with my son at Southend.
He werent out to cause trouble and added "I should of told you but it was embarrassing and didnt want to get involved"
Back to `Marraige Guidance` with Number 1 son. I add "but dont marry some bow wow with a weight problem" and he replies "as if I would".
We laugh and I tell him " a plain fatty would be faithful - but then so would a dog"
My advice:
"marry a pretty girl with a sense of humour and a good metabolism".
But I do worry because like my youngest he`s such a `handsome sod` , father like son LOL, he has my `gift of the gab` and personality but `thank god` he`s inherited jtj`s good looks.
And its because he`s so good-looking that he does attract beautiful girls - the girls he brings home are allways `stunners` so I do have genuine concerns for the future.
I just hope that both boys choose wisely and dont get hurt.
The truth is whatever girls are lucky enough to marry my boys they will have a couple of husbands who will never cheat on them.
Both boys know adultery is wrong and neither would commit such a `crime` against the mothers of their children.
My only other advice is that when you became a dad "love your kids to bits" but dont make the mistakes I did.
When I first met jtj , the truth is it was `lust at first sight` and "love at second". I was infatuated with her - but the truth is as the kids came along I put them first.
The thing is I hadnt been a dad before and I werent sure how to deal with it. It`s like before jtj I hadnt been in love or married before - but before the kids come along I could deal with it.
But as each year passed I concentrated more on being a dad then a husband - I hope that makes sense.
I have done my best to explain to my sons.
And the fact is I do think because of how they`ve been brought up and what`s happened since 2005 they will both be "great dads".
I will make sure they read the brilliant autobiography by Larry Lamb.
My other `words of wisdom` to both boys is "remember you are marrying the girl of your dreams and not her family"
I would suggest through talking to loads of people, reading books and watching TV that most marraiges suffer because of in-laws.
The truth is you shouldnt accept them as part of the marraige package. Let`s be honest if you werent marrying their son or daughter you wouldnt be `friends` with them or have anything in common with them would you?
How many people reading this book (male or female) actually like their in-laws? I bet more then half of you dont even rate your own parents.
Am I right?
I have told both boys "When you get married your wife comes first and I will move down the pecking order"
That it how it should be. I can understand and support that 100% but genuinely dont know how to advise them when it comes to being parents.
Somehow they must get the balance right of loving their kids as much as their `other halves` and not more.
I got it wrong and put my children above everything - I willingly admit I loved them more then jtj, my parents, West Ham FC, George Best, David Bowie, Speed, The Kray Twins, Cocaine, Punk Rock, Minder and all the other `luvs of my life` put together.
I have only truly loved 4 times in my life - that being the mother of my kids and my children.
I`ve liked and like 100s of people but never `loved`.
My mum and dad, I didnt choose them, as a adult I never really loved them and cant say I really had anything in common with them.
Both were in there own different ways `very selfish` and I know they never truly `loved me` but the truth is I aint bitter cos I couldnt give a monkeys. And anyone who really knows me can confirm that is the Gospel Truth.
My happiest times were when I was `apart from them` and there`s probably when they were apart from me LOL.
The "Golden Years" for me were 1989-2005 and that is from the heart and fact - better then being a schoolboy football star, teenage tearaway, punk rocker, druggie and party animal.
And I wouldnt swap those years for anything - nothing that has happened since or happens in the future can wipe away my memories and the honour of being dad to Sam, Adam and PRINCESS.
I think my kids will make great parents and make me proud - and more important make their partners and children `happy and proud`.
Private Draft Version:
Martydom. I can almost taste it. Last Thursday I went to court and was once again the `innocent victim` of `corruption`.
As always I was `persecuted` by a pincer movement involving my ex-wife, Social Services and the judge.
They once again lied and lied, conspired to stop me seeing my daughter. I was wrongly accused of contempt as all reporting restrictions related to my case were lifted by Lord Justice Munby at The High Court.
And as part of their campaign to stop me seeing my daughter they falsely accused me of writing a feature in The Sun which if they`d bothered to look carried the bye-line of campaigning journalist Jane Moore.
One of the many people featured in the 2-page article was called "Harry" which unbeknown to me is apparently my alias!
There was of course no hard evidence to prove I was `Harry` just the slanderous smear of jtj who provided the court with a edited clipping of the article.
It was a `kangaroo court` and like something out of `Nazi Germany` or pre-Mandella South Africa.
They want me `silenced` because I dared to expose how they all conspired to cover-up the fact that my children were violently threatened and verbally sexually abused by richard grimson.
The perverted pimp and boyfriend of my ex-wife.
They also ignored the fact that every word I have ever written or spoken aint just been the `gospel truth`.
It was also verbally repeated on oath and every word appeared in my written statement to The High Court in 2009.
I would of revealed this earlier but Friday was taken up with medical stuff, Saturday and Sunday football and yesterday organising a trip to Ireland. (all paid for by Social Services LOL).
My medical condition allows me to be a martyr. I have a illness so why wait for `nature to take its course` why not go out with a `bang` in a blaze of publicity?
From a very young age I always wanted to be famous. First a footballer, a gangster, and then a punk rock singer.
Now I can be the first `reality TV star` to die on `hunger strike`.
A week before my next court appearance I will start a `Hunger Strike` as every death in police custody/prison is always reported by the media.
They will want to know how and why I died.
There also has to be a inquest, so my death, my story, my miscarraige of justice will not be `swept under the carpet`.
This is no empty threat - because if I dont go through with it - I will lose `face` and my credibility.
My decision is now on-the-record.
In death I obviously wont be breathing but it will give me the oxygen of publicity. It might even lead to a full Public Inquiry.
The British people will want to know why a `devoted dad` has been stopped from seeing his daughter since November 2007.
A question PRINCESS will also ask when she is older.
She like the great British public will want to know why a Father who commited no crime and was accused of no crime was denied access to his daughter.
Why was a dad `persucuted and punished` for daring to speak out when his children were `violently threatened` and `verbally sexually abused` by a former pimp with a 15-year history of bullying women and children?
And why was borderline paedophile richard grimson protected by the mother and his lover julie taylor johnson?
There are many more questions for a inquest to ask.
Why were social services and my ex-wife allowed to claim I was `mad` or "mentally ill"?
And why were they allowed to get away with it?
A inquest will demand answers
The fact is the courts cant punish a dead person. They cant put a corpse in the dock.
I dont want to die - who does?
So let me explain my position.
My children know I am not well and see my physical pain on a daily basis. I have a iffy heart, dodgy liver and stomach ulcers.
They know my medical condition is the fault of their former mother, social services and the judge.
My sons know I went to prison for daring to name richard grimson, the perverted pimp and boyfriend of their ex-mum.
I told the world that this piece of `vermin` violently threatened and verbally sexually abused my children with the knowledge of social services and my ex-wife.
And for that I lost my freedom and my health.
But the fact is I know my sons will support my desicion to take my fight to the grave.
As the MP told my sons "They want your dad dead" adding "with him dead they dont have a problem".
Well he was right about them wanting me dead - but wrong about that being the end of their problem.
I will still be seeking the truth from beyond the grave. I have left legal letters, timed and dated documents that my sons will give to the media.
And before anyone accuses me of being `mentally ill` for planning a hunger strike - let me just say Ghandi, The Suffragettes and Bobby Sands.
All were hunger strikers, some lived some died - but they all fought for and in one way or another got justice.
I aint a hero - but I`m not well as three stays in Basildon Hospital with `heart problems` prove and next weeks scan will confirm.
The honest fact is I dont want to be a invalid and have to rely on my kids to look after me. I dont want to be a burden to anyone. I want to be a dead hero rather then a live coward.
I love my children to bits - but I know they feel I let them down because I didnt `do` grimson in 2005.
They have said to me "Dad you should of done him" and in a way they were right - I did let them down.
I explained the teenage me would of - as would the 25-year-old Garry Johnson. But I explained that is what your mother and her family wanted me to do - with me banged up for life they would of taken you from me.
They would of poisoned you against me and brainwashed you.
And I told them how a genuine Cockney hardman said to me "Gal, do you really want to spend 20 years locked up for a few minutes of pleasure?"
So I feel that by going on Hunger Strike I will be a true hero to my children. I want my headstone to say "Garry Johnson gave his life for his children".
What better tribute could a dad have?
I have contacted the media and a film company telling them of my decision so that everything is on-the-record.
I wanted to play for West Ham or appear on Top Of The Pops, that didnt happen, but this way I`ll get on SKY News and my name will live on forever.
I will from beyond the grave expose the corrupt Family Courts, Social Services and Cafcass and reveal how they all conspired with the help of my ex-wife to protect borderline pardophile richard grimson.
A former pimp who boasted of sex sessions with my 5-year-old daughter and ex-wife. A sick scumbag who carried out a campaign of terror against my children.
I am sure a inquest/public inquiry will want to know why the Family Court and Social Services protected such a beast.
And the timed and dated documents and legal letters my sons will hand to the media will confirm I was telling the truth and that there was a cover-up.
The police can confirm they cautioned grimson and spoke to him 3 times about his sick behaviour, the documents confirm my ex-wife covered-up for him.
And his sick behaviour is on-the-record in various `secret` Social Services and Cafcass documents.
So why was nothing done to protect my children?
I discovered from a relative of the pervert (Emma M from Ipswich) that he had a 15-year history of abusing and terrorising women and children).
That fact and everything else will come out at the Inquest. One way or another it will be in the public domain that richard grimson formerly of 40 Hyde Way Wickford and now of Wisbech did violently threaten and verbally sexually abuse my children.
And that jtj `covered-up` for him and refused to report his vile behaviour to the police.
My eldest is 19 tomorrow and youngest will be 17 in November so both will be old enough for legal Lie Detector Tests.
I am so confident that I will stick 100% to my hunger strike that in recent days I have done and spoken to my sons about `soppy sentimental` things.
Today (Thursday April 21st) it was a boiling hot day so I went to Southend and stood on the very spot where my first born walked for the first time on his own.
It was `very emotional` as was having a drink in the seafront pub where in 1989 I realised I was falling in love with my ex-wife.
And from memory she bought me a Rod Stewart Greatest Hits Video.
Next week after my scan in Billericay I plan to visit Lake Meadows where my youngest son walked for the first time - it was on the grass next to the swimming pool.
And then Pitsea Zoo where my daughter walked on her own for the first time.
I`ve also been talking to my oldest son about marriage - his not mine LOL.
I said "I cant wait for you to settle down and have kids"
Him: "Why?"
adding "What sort of dad do you think I`d make?"
I reply "brilliant" adding "Because of all you`ve been through you`ll be a great dad"
I dont say much more in case I let slip that I worry about not being around to see my grandkids - but I do give him `marraige advice` but `me being me` it aint boring or traditional.
I say "dont marry a beautiful girl, I made that mistake and look what happened? "
I tell him `beautiful women are most likely to cheat on you" . My son "What like her and grimson?"
Me:
"Exactly"
Adding "And dont forget flemming and tibbs junior"
The fact is it was others and not me who either caught her `cheating` or tipped off the boys about her adultery.
My youngest caught her kissing flemming and `half-naked` with grimson. The father of Ross Tussaud revealed to him "your mum has been seeing my brother-in-law" (peter tibbs jnr)
And it was Princess who told Sam
"I`m going to a wedding with mum and vinnie" (Hyms)
But still she tells the court and Social Services that I turned the boys against her when the truth is I only personally told the boys one thing - that being:
"You know Aiden the taxi driver he said he saw her with grimson loads of times and that the fat pervert was all over her"
Aiden is not my mate or anything so had no reason to lie, in fact his son played football with my son at Southend.
He werent out to cause trouble and added "I should of told you but it was embarrassing and didnt want to get involved"
Back to `Marraige Guidance` with Number 1 son. I add "but dont marry some bow wow with a weight problem" and he replies "as if I would".
We laugh and I tell him " a plain fatty would be faithful - but then so would a dog"
My advice:
"marry a pretty girl with a sense of humour and a good metabolism".
But I do worry because like my youngest he`s such a `handsome sod` , father like son LOL, he has my `gift of the gab` and personality but `thank god` he`s inherited jtj`s good looks.
And its because he`s so good-looking that he does attract beautiful girls - the girls he brings home are allways `stunners` so I do have genuine concerns for the future.
I just hope that both boys choose wisely and dont get hurt.
The truth is whatever girls are lucky enough to marry my boys they will have a couple of husbands who will never cheat on them.
Both boys know adultery is wrong and neither would commit such a `crime` against the mothers of their children.
My only other advice is that when you became a dad "love your kids to bits" but dont make the mistakes I did.
When I first met jtj , the truth is it was `lust at first sight` and "love at second". I was infatuated with her - but the truth is as the kids came along I put them first.
The thing is I hadnt been a dad before and I werent sure how to deal with it. It`s like before jtj I hadnt been in love or married before - but before the kids come along I could deal with it.
But as each year passed I concentrated more on being a dad then a husband - I hope that makes sense.
I have done my best to explain to my sons.
And the fact is I do think because of how they`ve been brought up and what`s happened since 2005 they will both be "great dads".
I will make sure they read the brilliant autobiography by Larry Lamb.
My other `words of wisdom` to both boys is "remember you are marrying the girl of your dreams and not her family"
I would suggest through talking to loads of people, reading books and watching TV that most marraiges suffer because of in-laws.
The truth is you shouldnt accept them as part of the marraige package. Let`s be honest if you werent marrying their son or daughter you wouldnt be `friends` with them or have anything in common with them would you?
How many people reading this book (male or female) actually like their in-laws? I bet more then half of you dont even rate your own parents.
Am I right?
I have told both boys "When you get married your wife comes first and I will move down the pecking order"
That it how it should be. I can understand and support that 100% but genuinely dont know how to advise them when it comes to being parents.
Somehow they must get the balance right of loving their kids as much as their `other halves` and not more.
I got it wrong and put my children above everything - I willingly admit I loved them more then jtj, my parents, West Ham FC, George Best, David Bowie, Speed, The Kray Twins, Cocaine, Punk Rock, Minder and all the other `luvs of my life` put together.
I have only truly loved 4 times in my life - that being the mother of my kids and my children.
I`ve liked and like 100s of people but never `loved`.
My mum and dad, I didnt choose them, as a adult I never really loved them and cant say I really had anything in common with them.
Both were in there own different ways `very selfish` and I know they never truly `loved me` but the truth is I aint bitter cos I couldnt give a monkeys. And anyone who really knows me can confirm that is the Gospel Truth.
My happiest times were when I was `apart from them` and there`s probably when they were apart from me LOL.
The "Golden Years" for me were 1989-2005 and that is from the heart and fact - better then being a schoolboy football star, teenage tearaway, punk rocker, druggie and party animal.
And I wouldnt swap those years for anything - nothing that has happened since or happens in the future can wipe away my memories and the honour of being dad to Sam, Adam and PRINCESS.
I think my kids will make great parents and make me proud - and more important make their partners and children `happy and proud`.
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